Kids are aware that hitting, kicking, or pushing is not the right way to deal with their emotions, especially when they feel frustrated or angry. It’s important to help them learn how to manage their anger effectively, which we often refer to as kids anger management. If your child tends to lash out, you can suggest they take a time-out from the situation and encourage them to calm down on their own in a safe and quiet place.


Aggression is a natural part of a child’s development, and it often leads to frustration and anger. It can also be a sign of other problems, such as a learning disability or even autism. Children who display aggression need to be taught how to express themselves more effectively and resolve conflicts. They should be given time to practice these skills and may need help from a counselor or psychologist.

Children learn by trial and error. They discover their environment through their senses and use biting, grabbing, hitting, and kicking to explore it. This is why babies may grab their parent’s earrings, pull their hair, or bite when breastfeeding. Their behavior is not meant to hurt or upset their parents but rather to see what happens when they do it. The same is true of children who hit other kids. This is called expressive aggression.

Young children’s brains are still developing, and they are driven by the “fight or flight” reaction to stress. They may not understand the impact of their actions on others, but that doesn’t mean they don’t deserve punishment for their aggressive actions. Toddlers and preschoolers are still learning to control their emotions and may need extra patience and guidance from their parents.

School-age children may struggle with temper control, especially when facing school-related frustrations or emotional challenges like family issues, depression, or anxiety. Difficulty in relating to peers can lead them to resort to aggression.

If your child’s behavior harms others or disrupts home and school life, seek help. Encourage alternative coping methods like words, music, journaling, or physical activity. Reinforce positives, monitor TV content, and with patience and consistency, your child can learn non-aggressive conflict resolution. Anti-bullying organizations can also help.

Callous-unemotional traits

Children who engage in hitting, kicking, and biting others may struggle with impulse control, often linked to callous-unemotional traits. Such behaviors are linked to elevated rates of antisocial conduct and criminality, as well as a heightened risk of psychiatric disorders like depression and substance abuse. It is vital to distinguish between children with callous-unemotional traits and those with substantial behavior problems. Equally essential is comprehending the root causes of their actions.

Researchers acknowledge that some children develop CU traits independently while others acquire them due to life experiences. For instance, a child might develop callous-unemotional traits when her mother fails to meet her needs or display empathy. Children exposed to parental neglect or abuse are also at a higher risk of developing CU traits.

Research indicates that children displaying callous-unemotional traits (CU) are more likely to develop severe antisocial behavior and psychiatric disorders as adults. Their deficiency in empathy and guilt makes them prone to enduring negative consequences when grappling with persistent antisocial problems.

Early CU research focused on developing and validating a measure for these traits. Various scales were used, but many only capture some aspects of CU. Willoughby and colleagues22 created a five-item CU traits scale from the Child Behavior Checklist, assessing low empathy, guilt absence, and unresponsiveness to affection. They found it psychometrically robust, correlating significantly with conduct problems and aggression measures.

The CU traits were combined into a single factor and subjected to structural equation modeling to assess incremental validity. A bifactor model fits the data well for both boys and girls. However, the cell size was too small to detect an incremental effect of CU traits on aggression at age 2.5 and age 5. Therefore, the regression analysis was not robust, and results were limited.

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Sensory system

The sensory system comprises organs, tissues, and cells that receive stimuli and convert them into nerve signals for the nervous system. It includes systems like vision, hearing, taste, smell, touch, proprioception, and the vestibular system for balance and spatial orientation. Sensory information undergoes a process called sensory transduction, unique to each sense, where receptors convert stimulus energy into nerve impulses. For instance, proprioceptors in the skin, inner ear, and muscles translate movement inputs into brain signals.

In the brain, sensory signals are encoded through two primary processes: line coding and population coding. Line coding involves comparing a stimulus’s intensity to a threshold or reference value and sending an appropriate signal. Population coding enhances distinctions among overlapping receptive fields and helps differentiate similar stimuli with the same threshold.

Despite their differences, most sensory systems work essentially the same way. Environmental input is encoded by specialized receptors in the periphery, which transmits the information to the central nervous system via cranial nerves (except for olfaction, which bypasses this area). Once the signals reach the brain, they are routed to the primary cortical regions of each sense system.

These regions send projections to the rest of the brain, which combines the input from multiple sensory systems. For example, vision and hearing are combined to create a sense of sight, and touch and balance are combined into the sense of proprioception. This information is then sent to the brain’s association areas, creating the final sense the individual perceives. In some children, these systems are not functioning properly. This may lead to feelings of anger or a desire to hurt others. This anger or desire can come from many different sources, including major life experiences, stress, and trauma.

Life experiences

Most kids have had a number of life experiences that can impact their behaviors. When children are faced with a situation they feel they cannot handle or have had previous bad experiences, their behavior may be impacted by these life events.

For instance, when a child gets into a fight with another child, they might struggle to handle their emotions and respond by hurting the other child. This behavior, termed maladaptive, could indicate that the child is harboring anger related to an event involving them or a family member.

This can also be a sign that the child needs help. This can be addressed by a parent who tries to communicate with the child to understand what they are feeling. Parents should model proper emotional expression to prevent harm. If the child expresses a desire to hurt someone, the mother can respond with empathy, saying, “I can see you’re upset.” I would love to come up with a solution so you don’t hurt.

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